On Saturday January 21st, there is a women's march in Washington and all over the world. Should I go to the provincial government buildings in Toronto and march?
I was quite young during the protests in the sixties, but I always felt I missed something. Maybe that is my FOMO, fear of missing out, talking. I was astounded that Trump won. I am a dual citizen and for the first time in my adult life voted in the US election. I voted for Hilary.
I have had many conversations since the election and I am always struck by how polarized the dialogue is. But it really doesn't ever feel like a dialogue, rather monologues that occur like parallel play among toddlers. Each person stakes out their position and continue to reiterate past opinions and/or add new information to support their original views.
Trust me I am as opinionated as the next guy, but I believe it is crucial to listen, not just talk. I work very hard at using my counselling skills to try to inquire, understand, and not get defensive. Trust me this and I am a work in progress. I wish I could express my opinions more effectively, and support my positions with greater skill. Despite that desire, none of us have a crystal ball and no one knows what is going to happen.
Instead of us all presenting our views as if , "I was right and you are wrong" can we concede that whether it is an election, a family dispute, or any conflict that it can be complicated and that we need to speak civilly, show respect and try to understand one another and learn.
Can we operate with a win-win mentality, or it's your turn to lead now and my turn is next.
Back to should I march? What would I be marching for? Do I just want to be a part of something, maybe just hang out with like minded people? Do public protests have impact? Maybe there are other ways to stand up for what you believe in. Speak up when we see others ridiculed or mocked, donate to programs that support my beliefs, continue to be vigilant and informed.
What is important to me, at this moment in time, is to maintain legalized abortion and LGBT rights, respect for all races and building and sustaining strong meaningful constructive relationships.
So, I haven't decided yet, to march or not to march. Anyone have an opinion? I really do want to hear what you have to say?